daINKtellectual writes

If life is a forest, then the lessons you learn along the way are the trees. Don't forget to see the forest for the trees sometime, makes the forest all the more beautiful!

Why don't we see more marriages in black films? (Aside from the hysterical Jumping the Broom of course) This is a random thought that just occurred while finishing one of my favorite movies, Love & Basketball There was a big gap in the story-line for me. Okay, we see Monica and Quincy getting back together after he utters "Double or Nothing" after triumphing over her in one on one. Prior to this, he was engaged to a flight attendant. This wedding was being planned, they prepared to join as one as clearly shown when he went to his childhood room to retrieve items as Monica painfully watched "the other woman" try to take away pieces of  who Quincy was into their new life together. (May I add to the SOULFUL crooning of Holding Back the Years by Angie Stone! LOVE this soundtrack, have it in the car!) *ahem* Then, we see the intro of the LA Sparks with the back of her jersey saying "Wright-McCall". It is clear as day that they are married, b...

There's nothing like loving yourself. Completely and fully. Inside and out. Mind, spirit, and newly for me, BODY . I have always said it, but I actually felt it for the very first time today. After I bathed, I looked myself in the mirror and thought "it's OK that my thighs touch, that I wear a size 14, that I am curvy in many areas. SOMEBODY's gotta do it!" I have been realizing lately that my body type will not allow me to be smaller than about a 9, and I'm cool with that! Although I would like to be healthier, it does NOT equal skinny for me. If I DO want to change it, I have to love and accept it for what it is currently. And that it will take WORK and TIME to get it where I would want it to be. Coming to this conclusion is an extremely liberating feeling. One I will never forget. One I will cherish and take with me for the rest of my life! I am the only one who will be with me throughout my entire lifetime in the physical form, so it is best to acce...

Maaaaan, listen. smh Everyday is a struggle, some more than others. Today, is one of the more rough days. I have members of group projects FINALLY trying to pull their weight. I DON'T have time! I am just trying to graduate . And I don't even know if I'm doing that right. smh On top of all of this work, I still have to send out ceremony reminders and party invites. WTAF!!!!!

Ten days until I finish classes for my undergraduate career. HECTIC! On another note, everything in my love life is *sigh*. Had a wonderful outing with my boyfriend yesterday. Went down Canal Walk and saw all of the historic tributes there. Accompanied by talking, smooching, and laughing. That guy.... Got my invites in the mail from my Father and his girlfriend...and they took my BREATH away! Beautiful surprise indeed. Have to send those out as well as print/send out ceremony reminders...late as hell! smh Hope my great uncles and their wives/children can make it down to celebrate with the family. I miss them dearly. In the MEANTIME, I have LOADS of work to finish. Damn those group projects you end up doing alone smh. Hopefully when I enter my career I will be on teams where others care as much and work as hard as I do. I can only pray for the best, for I KNOW I shall receive it! Other than that, I am extremely blessed and highly grateful! I won a debate this weekend (two if you...

That is the only title I could come up with for this post. As I was on one of my favorite e-zine websites, Clutch magazine, I had come across an article that had left me furious, confused, and heartbroken. All too often we say that racism is still alive and rearing its ugly head, but not often do we see the other side of it from whichever end our persepctive is on. I found an article  on Clutch that briefly discusses how a writer had posted an article about "The Non-Black Verison of The Talk", and immdeiately felt disgusted. As is that weren't enough, I actually had to click the link and see the post for myself. I read on in disbelief that someone would actually tell their child/children these utterly ridiculous and often untrue things. Although this can be true for a small number of individuals, it is in no way shape or form a reflection of our entire race. This actually had me reference run ins with people of the "opposite race" that I am, and I noticed h...